Confidence & Self-Esteem

Confidence is the quiet trust that you can meet whatever life brings. Self-esteem is the warmth of knowing you are already enough. Both can be nurtured and grown, even if they feel distant right now.

“Shine like the whole universe is yours”

– Rumi

If any of this feels familiar, I can help

Confidence rarely disappears all at once. It erodes in small ways. Here are the patterns that often show up when self-belief has faded.

Self-critical inner voice

The voice in my head is harsher than I would ever use on someone else. I notice every mistake and dismiss every win.

Imposter feelings

I worry I will be found out. That I do not really belong in this room, this role, this life.

Fear of judgement

What will they think of me? I rehearse conversations, second-guess messages, and shrink in groups.

Shrinking in relationships

I put others first to keep the peace, then feel resentful, drained and a little invisible.

Comparing & catastrophising

Everyone else seems ahead, happier, more sorted. I keep measuring my insides against their outsides.

Avoiding visibility

I hold back from sharing, applying, asking, speaking up. It feels safer to stay small.

Contact to book

How hypnotherapy helps

Low confidence rarely begins in adulthood. It is usually layered, shaped by moments, comments and comparisons we picked up long before we had the words for them. Hypnotherapy works gently with the subconscious to find the root of the story you have been carrying, soften it, and write a new one in its place. In a deeply relaxed state, the mind becomes open to new beliefs about who you are and what you are capable of, and the nervous system learns what it feels like to trust yourself again.

Alongside hypnotherapy we use NLP tools like anchoring, visualisation and reframing to rewire the inner critic, rehearse the version of you that feels grounded and capable, and interrupt the old patterns of shrinking and comparison. Together we build confidence that is not performative, but real, rooted in self-acceptance rather than proving yourself. Over time, you will speak up more easily, hold your own in difficult rooms, and show up as someone you are genuinely proud of.

Confidence & self-esteem sessions

Each session is tailored to your story and the areas of life where confidence has slipped. Together we rewire the inner voice, release the old experiences that shaped you, and rebuild a version of you that feels steady, capable and kind to yourself.

Contact to book

Kind words from clients

Small shifts can make a big difference. Here’s what clients have shared.

    
 
 
       Posted on Google  
   
   Lyndsey Howe 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I will start this by saying Lorraine has changed my life!! That is really no exaggeration. I suffered with very severe postnatal depression which led to years of health anxiety related to my daughter. As I got older the health anxiety then crept into my own world where I became obsessed with the idea that myself or my daughter were going to suffer some terrible illness. I went to Lorraine in desperate need of some help to relieve the stress, pressure and pain this condition was chasing as it was ruling my every day life. Through hypnotherapy and NLP Lorraine has reprogrammed my thinking and I no longer suffer the symptoms of health anxiety. The thoughts crop up, because she can’t wipe my brain, but I no longer dwell on them, they no longer upset or distress me, and they no longer impact how I live, feel or sleep. It’s truly magical. I am so grateful and have actually recommended two of my family members to see her, one of whom is now already engaging in her care and seeing huge benefits! Thank you Lorraine, you are so wonderful at what you do and I will be forever grateful 🙏🏻 💗
  
 
      Posted on Google  
   
   kate dolman 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I went to Lorraine with a fear of flying. She skilfully designed a series of sessions which included hypnotherapy and NLP. Every session was not only deeply relaxing and empowering, but also gave me practical tools to take away and practise. Each session built on the last and the final session pulled everything together. During the flight I was able to take control of my nerves an emotions, such an amazing feeling. I would definitely recommend Lorraine, she has taught me skills for life 🤩
  
 
      Posted on Google  
   
   Tom Ruddell 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Seeing Lorraine has been transformational and profound for me, I would highly recommend to others, go with an open mind. She is warm, kind and easy to open up to. I’m on a necessary journey that wouldn’t be possible without Lorraine.
  
 
      Posted on Google  
   
   Juli H 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I went to Lorraine for issues with IBS; nothing I had tried previously had had a long term effect. I was very sceptical. I found Lorraine to be a very warm and understanding person, she asked questions in a careful and supportive way. She explained the benefits of deep breathing and hypnotherapy and I have now had 3 hypnotherapy sessions. I feel so relaxed and energised after these sessions and to date have not had an IBS issue for 3 months - RESULT! Would fully recommend Lorraine.
  
 
      Posted on Google  
   
   Lisa Smith 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. I was initially a bit cynical about trying hypnotherapy however due to the long waiting lists on the NHS for treatment I decided to try it.  I went to Lorraine with anxiety issues and a fear of vomiting and eating certain foods. From the moment I met with Lorraine she made me feel at ease,  I felt listened to and hopeful that my problems could be solved. At the end of my 6 sessions I have learnt a lot about myself , Lorraine has given me lots of information and techniques to take away with me. I am now getting back to my normal self , enjoying socialising again and eating food!  I feel so much more relaxed and haven’t had any anxiety issues. I would definitely recommend Lorraine and I am so thankful for all she has done x
  
 
      Posted on Google  
   
   Nicola Greenwood 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Lorraine is a very caring and extremely competent  hypnotherapist.  I have always found her to be professional and she always treats her clients with the utmost respect. She is very knowledgeable and approaches even the most sensitive issues with thoughtfulness and kindness. Lorraine goes above and beyond to help you find a solution.  I would definitely recommend her.
  
 
      Posted on Google  
   
   Debra Miles 
 
 
 
 Trustindex verifies that the original source of the review is Google. Lorraine is professional, curious and genuinely interested in helping to resolve any problems. She is kind and caring in nature. A beautiful soul whom i am proud to call my sister and best friend. I wish her every success in the future and looking forward to my next treatment.

If you’re ready to step out of self-doubt and reconnect with your natural confidence and self-trust, I’d love to support you

lorrainecooperhypnotherapy@gmail.com 07968 449353 Mon - Thurs 9am - 5pm Poole - Wimborne - Bournemouth and surrounding areas

Begin a new chapter in your life. I’d love to support you on your journey – Let’s talk

Book a Session